An emergency definitely comes out of nowhere – after all, if you had advance warning it really wouldn’t be an emergency, now would it? You have to think about all of your options, especially when you already have existing obligations. For example — what are you going to do if one of your family members gets sick or someone dies? Some would suggest to you that you should quit college, but is that really the best option?
Not always. You see, when people withdraw from college, the odds are against them when it comes to going back to college. They don’t ever expect to not want to go back, but you might be surprised what happens to your attitude when you know that you don’t have to go back if you don’t want to. It’s not like mandatory schooling, where you will have absences that are counted against you. Once you withdraw, that’s it — no more school, ever — if that’s what you want, of course.
It all goes back to your overall reasons and goals behind going to college. When you want something bad enough, you will do just about anything to get it. It invades your dreams, and it represents something that means a lot to you. Your family means a lot to you, but you have to think about it from a logical point of view. There is going to be a time where your family isn’t going to be there for you. Shouldn’t you make sure that you’re going to be able to take care of yourself?
Now, this doesn’t mean that you can’t do other things to make sure that your family is stable. You can stay in college and travel on the breaks, which would still give you time with your family. If you have a relative that needs long term care, you have to evaluate for yourself if you even have the ability to take care of them. That isn’t a slight against you in the least — it’s just reality. Many relatives get to a point in their lies where they really need to be watched over by a qualified medical professional. You don’t want to try to leave such an important task to chance. If you can’t handle it, it’s better to admit that up front.
Setting realistic boundaries can keep family at bay. If you think that you will have trouble handling an emergency, it’s definitely time to ask for help. Why would you ever want to just sit and suffer silently? It’s only going to make things worse, and that’s never a good idea.
Through it all, you have to remember to breathe and look at things from all angles. There are definitely times where you really do need to drop out of college after an emergency has hit your family. On the other hand, there are definitely times where you don’t need to drop out. Dropping out of college when you’re so close to getting the degree that you’ve worked so hard for is frustrating. You also have to think about how your financial aid is going to be handled. You could end up giving up a lot of free money if you don’t think through things carefully. That would be a real shame. Make sure that you study your options and make the decision that’s right for you, first and foremost! Good luck!